Really they only play? Family conflicts-inevitability? And it is necessary to avoid them?
Conflicts in families do not differ a variety: house duties, education of children, money, relations with relatives, pastime … their Distinctive line – repeatability. It would Seem, the conflict is settled, you have come to any decision, but after a while it arises again. And in the end of quarrel, as a rule, already nobody remembers, because of what, actually, it has arisen. And the garbage can which spouses the next time has forgotten to take out is frequent, induces you to reflexions such: And what I, in general, do near to such awful and stale person?
Actually the true reason of the majority of family conflicts is covered absolutely in other. For example, you feel, that the husband does not give you enough attention, and is engaged in exclusively the affairs. In your soul the protest against such state of affairs ripens. But instead of telling about it to the favourite husband, you silently take offence at it. And how long you saved insult in yourself, depends, emotional splash will be how much strong. And as an occasion to it any nonsense can serve: long conversation of the husband by phone, delay for five minutes on a visit. You flash, start to accuse the husband of all sins, you are ready to kill him …
Actually it is your insults and desires they were splashed out on a surface, but
naprvleny not on the problem decision, and on this "nonsense". As a rule, the man is lost from such quantity of the information which have fallen down it, moreover and stated in so emotional form. For this reason it is absolute all men shouting and crying women for this reason from a number of "lassies" and "kitties" we get to the category of "hysteric women" irritate.
The husband does not understand, why you so conduct yourself, after all to quarrel you have begun really because of a trifle, and the present reason to it have not explained, or try to explain on a quarrel course, remembering all old insults. And even if you will achieve from the
blagovernogo the promise never more so long not to occupy phone and every morning to take out dust, the present problem all the same remains "not spoken".
Hardly there are families, in which only calm yes good fortune. Simply to quarrel and find out relations it is necessary to be able.
Do not try to do it with the angry, tired and hungry man. Do not do it before a dream. The man is afraid (and not without the bases), that conversation will be tightened for a long time, and it at all will not manage to sleep. If at you "has become painful", ask to listen to the husband you, but thus accurately stipulate conversation time: Dear, I need to talk to you. It will not occupy more than 15 minutes
If to you have allowed to "be uttered", do not demand from the husband of immediate reaction to your words. Remember, time for reflexions is necessary for it.
